Temper tantrums can be frustrating, especially when they happen outside the house. It’s important to know that tantrums are a natural part of your child’s development and understanding the reasons behind a temper tantrum can help you diffuse them effectively.
Toddlers often find it difficult to express themselves. This difficulty then turns into frustration. Frustration turns into a tantrum. Tantrums help to develop the neural pathways in your child’s brain that will help them to manage stress when they grow up.
By around 18 months old, temper tantrums will likely be a common occurrence in your toddler. However, by four-years-old when your child can talk a bit more, tantrums will become far less common. Generally speaking, there are two kinds of tantrums. Knowing the differences between the two will help you spot the signs and diffuse the tantrum quickly and easily.
When your child is finding it difficult to communicate their feelings and needs, they become distressed. Here are some top tips to help you diffuse a distress tantrum:
A control tantrum is where your child is using angry and disruptive behaviour to manipulate you into submission. Here are some top tips to help you respond to a control tantrum:
Your child will occasionally bite and hit you or another child or parent. Toddlers are often just curious and may not understand that this behaviour is something that hurts and is not acceptable. Here are some top tips to help you deal with this physical behaviour:
Please note that just because your toddler is sometimes a little physical, this does not mean that they will grow up to be aggressive.
A temper tantrum can occur at any time. However, if you’re going somewhere unfamiliar, take a moment to explain to your children where you’re going and involve them in any helpful activities whenever you can.
Two tips to keep in mind wherever you go with your children are:
These two little tips will help you avoid any tantrums that are caused by hunger, thirstiness or feeling ignored.
You can also take a look at the ‘Healthy Eating’ page for some perfect quick and easy wins to help keep your child’s hunger at bay.